The Distancer Anger Style Mike Fisher BAAM
Anger is a natural emotion that we all experience. Still, when it is not managed effectively, it can have a negative impact on our relationships and well-being. Fortunately, many strategies can help us control our anger and prevent it from causing harm. At the end of this blog, you can find the video “20 Tips for Controlling Your Anger” by Mike Fisher, the founder of The British Association of Anger Management.
In this video, Mike Fisher, “The Anger guru,” gives strategies and key points to help you take control of your anger. Here are some of the tips that we highlighted:
Take time out: When you feel anger rising, take a moment to think about it before acting.
Delete the word “should”: when you impose a should on the other person, you’re assuming that they accept your belief and moral system, which is the perfect recipe for conflict.
Listen: if you’re not listening, it means you’re not learning. You have to listen to take a look at the bigger picture. If you don’t listen, you can make assumptions that only heat up the argument. And also, listening makes you empathize with the other person.
Identify emotional needs: Recognize your emotional and primary needs related to your self-esteem.
Seek support: Don’t be afraid to seek help from friends, family, or a professional if you need it.
Mike Fisher also emphasizes the importance of taking responsibility for your anger and not blaming others for your emotions. He encourages viewers to develop self-awareness and to be proactive in managing their anger rather than waiting for it to become a problem.
If you feel like you need more support, we strongly advise you to take one of the many courses that BAAM has available and make that positive change that you need in your life once and for all.