Ten anger management tips for New Year’s resolutions
Do you find yourself losing your temper more often than you’d like? If so, you’re not alone. Everyone gets angry from time to time, but it’s how we handle that anger that really matters. Read on if you’re looking for tips to help you manage your anger more effectively.
- If it doesn’t matter in five minutes, just drop it.
When we’re angry, we often get caught up in small details that don’t matter in the grand scheme. If you get upset over something trivial, take a deep breath and let it go.
- Delay gratification – master tolerance.
Anger often arises when we don’t get what we want. Practicing delayed gratification can help you build tolerance and resilience and make you less prone to getting angry in the first place. Take time to consider the things that make you feel grateful.
- Sit in the discomfort of your feelings.
We often try to distract ourselves or suppress our feelings when we’re angry. However, it’s essential to allow yourself to feel your emotions fully. Sit with the discomfort and learn to process it in a healthy way.
- Do not sweat the small stuff.
Sometimes, we can get so caught up in the little things that we forget to appreciate the big picture. Try to keep things in perspective and focus on what really matters.
- Always consider the consequences.
Before you act out in anger, take a moment to consider the potential consequences. Will your actions make the situation better or worse? Is it worth it?
- Ask yourself what you can learn from this experience.
Anger can be a great teacher. Instead of reacting impulsively, take a step back and ask yourself what you can learn from the situation. What can you do differently next time?
- Keep your heart open however much it hurts.
When we’re angry, it’s easy to shut down and close ourselves off from the world. However, staying open and vulnerable can help us process our emotions more effectively.
- Know when to zip it (shut up).
Sometimes, the best thing you can do in a heated situation is to stay quiet. Resist the urge to argue or defend yourself, and just listen.
- Never invalidate the other person’s feelings or experiences.
Even if you disagree with someone, it’s important to acknowledge and validate their feelings. This can help to defuse the situation and create a more positive outcome.
- Don’t take anything personally.
When someone is angry with us, it’s easy to feel attacked and defensive. However, it’s important to remember that other people’s emotions are not necessarily about us. Try not to take things too personally.
If you don’t want to forget these tips, use this helpful video as a reminder or share with a friend: https://youtube.com/watch?v=sY1TH5errTk&feature=shares.
And if you’re serious about keeping your cool this year, be sure to get the free Keep Your Cool This Christmas Kit here. With a little effort and practice, you can learn to manage your anger in a healthy and productive way. Happy New Year!