Why Self-Esteem is More Important Than Confidence and What’s the Difference?
Self-esteem is a fundamental building block for long-term emotional well-being. It is well recognised by experts in this field, that those individuals with high levels of self-esteem are better equipped to deal with anger, and are capable of managing any potential risk of anger, far more effectively that those individuals with self-doubts.
There is, however, a fine line drawn between having high levels of self-esteem, and arrogance. Confidence in your ability to perform certain tasks does not necessarily mean that you suffer from an inflated sense of ego, but to define the difference between self-esteem and confidence, does require a balanced approach towards the levels of self-satisfaction contained within that confidence.
Having an intimate knowledge of your ability to perform a task or connect with other individuals at an effective level of communication, requires a high-level of self-esteem. Self-esteem sets you apart from someone who has an inflated opinion of their abilities, but may not by necessity have a positive effect on self-esteem; they may simply have an inflated ego which precludes them from long-term emotional well-being.
This may result in fluctuating levels of elation and depression. One minute they may be on a high, when circumstances are in their favour, and the next minute they may be down, resulting in depression, and consequently, outbursts of anger whilst attempting to deal with these emotional mood swings.
In order to be able to recognise the difference between natural ability to perform certain tasks, and contrived aspirations, you must be willing to accept yourself, with all your weaknesses and limitations. Doing so, without allowing these faults to diminish your performance is the challenge we all face!
Over-confidence, or misdirected arrogance is born of the inability of the individual to be willing to accept their challenges as areas of potential growth points, on which they should focus their attention, dealing with those limitations accordingly. Anger management can be defined as the process, by which an individual may learn more about their weaknesses, than their strengths. When those areas of weakness are known, then a concerted effort may be made to avoid that is seen as a negative attribute, by channelling the energy they have towards more favourable positive characteristics, without ignoring areas of growth. Like an elastic band, stretched to capacity, an individual will release all that positive energy in the correct direction, once they have understood their limitations.
When your sense of identity is on an even keel and you are leading a balanced lifestyle, you will have nothing to prove to yourself, or others. Having a healthy understanding of your limitations is not a weakness. This knowledge, or wisdom can now be used to provide a positive response to channel good energy. The reverse results in negative outcomes, exacerbating a sense of failure, or inadequacy, resulting in inappropriate manifestations of anger. Building your self-esteem provides that balanced platform and negates unhealthy reactionary mood swings.
A healthy self-esteem is a proactive answer to anger management.