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BA2: Weekend Intensive

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Held from a Friday through to a Sunday. Please choose your preferred venue.


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Beating Anger: Two

Duration: Intensive Weekend Programme.

Times: Starts 2pm Friday (unless stated otherwise on our Event Bookings Page)

Friday: Arrive 1:45 to start 2pm, finishing at 8pm

Saturday: 9am to 6pm

Sunday: 9am to 5pm

Programme: Mixed Group (Adults only)

BAO & BA2 are stand alone courses. They do NOT follow on from each other. It is exactly the same course, simply structured differently to try and meet the varied lifestyle demands of our clients.

Cost: £895.00

Workbook included (excludes meals and accommodation)

Accommodation: Information on local hotels and B&B’s can be supplied for East Grinstead. This will be supplied with your confirmation email. 

If required a Certificate of Attendance can be emailed to you, please request it.

Venues across the country. Please view the Event Bookings Page.

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This programme is held from a Friday to Sunday afternoon in the above listed venues. Groups average approx. 10 people. Meals and accommodation are not included in the course fee.

Beating Anger 1 and 2 are essentially the same programme, simply structured differently to meet the requirements of individuals in different lifestyle demands. Those who are unable to attend the 10-week programme in London have the opportunity of completing the programme over a weekend. It is also highly attended by people travelling from abroad.

This course is designed for everyone committed to exploring and understanding why they get as angry as the do, as well as discovering the fundamental tools to safely manage and transform their anger once and for all. You will develop an accurate profile of your own anger and stress levels, giving you valuable insight into what triggers your reactions and therefore manage it creatively.

The Beating Anger programme helps to examine how anger often takes root in traumatic childhood experiences. Withdrawal of love, inappropriate punishments, rejection, bullying and shaming are historical issues that can fuel present-day anger.

Ranging from those that are extravagantly aggressive in their anger demonstrations, to those who inhibit and contain their rage, Beating Anger helps you step through your fear and inhibitions to start the process of effectively dealing with your anger and that of others within a few weeks.

What we cover:

  • How to stop allowing your passive aggressive and aggressive behaviour high-jacking you emotionally and physically.
  • What anger is not.
  • The different types of anger.
  • How to avoid shame spirals.
  • Anger from the perspective of a child, adult and parent.
  • The regressive power of historical anger.
  • How to manage stress plus techniques for resolving conflict.
  • How to stop taking things so personally.
  • How negative emotional cycles work and how to interrupt them.
  • How to express anger cleanly.
  • Why stress fuels your anger.
  • How to control your thoughts and mistaken beliefs.
  • The six golden rules of anger management.
  • Simple yet powerful strategies to cope with other people’s anger.

Who could attend this programme:

  • Anyone who is hurting themselves and others with their anger, rage and fury.
  • Parents who cannot deal with their angry children.
  • Anyone who knows someone suffering from anger issues.
  • Individuals who have to deal with the consequences of chronic rage and anger.
  • People who need to be more assertive and less passive-aggressive.

The course will offer real added value to:

  • Parents and Adults
  • Health and care professionals.
  • Teachers who need to find creative ways of managing disruptions in the class.
  • Customer service staff, call centre personnel and people managers.


    • Immediately feel lighter and happier in yourself.
    • Recognise you are not alone in your suffering.
    • Increase your happiness quotient.
    • Increase your self esteem.
    • Understand the fundamentals of self healing.
    • Living to your full potential.
    • Viewing yourself from a totally new and refreshing perspective
    • Celebrating difference and diversity.

…and so much more

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35 reviews for BA2: Weekend Intensive

  1. Anonymous

    It’s my second time doing a BAAM weekender, my first was at 18 and my second at 33. I loved it, such great tools to learn and how to deal with situations that arise in day today life.
    Mike Fisher is one of the greatest men I have met in my life and real happy to have had the opportunity to work with him through my anger.
    Thank you for teaching me new life skills, it’s always a pleasure.
    Take care buddy. X

  2. Anonymous

    Hi Mike,
    I just wanted to say a big ‘Thank You’ for a really brilliant weekend on the intensive Beating Anger workshop. I honestly wish that I had known about, and done the course years ago!
    The first revelation of the course was learning how many feelings and emotions actually lay under the label ‘anger’ that I was not aware of. The second, very comforting revelation was working with a room of people, who shared experiences that I could relate to, that brought out feelings of, for example, hurt, sadness, shame and fear that all had a root in anger.
    Finally getting some strategies to deal with my anger and other people’s anger aimed at me, as well as understanding how not to take things personally, has made my whole week since the course, lighter and easier. I actually feel that now, I can really start to enjoy Life! I am aware however, that I will always have to work at my anger management, the way another person may have to work to keep their Diabetes under control, or take their blood pressure pills daily! So not impossible!…..
    Years ago, after some difficult family bereavements, I spent A LOT of money on Therapy; I was told after more than a year, that I was a very angry person and I came from a family where anger was the only emotion freely expressed. That was it. No solutions offered and no strategies given to help with this anger! I am saying all of this, so that people reading my Testimonial out there and in a similar position to mine 10 years ago, who are coping on the surface (and a wreck underneath), can see that there IS help out there and it is invaluable help that really will change your current, stressful thinking and all of your daily challenges. You will finally feel ‘lighter’ and meet some great people who will be an ongoing support for you, after the course.
    Thanks again Mike, for an amazing course and all of your invaluable expertise!

  3. Anonymous

    An excellent course and approach for anyone looking to understand why they are angry, the emotions and feelings that underlie it and want to put methods and tools in place to address it. Mike’s experience allows him to join all the dots superbly and encourages a complete new way of thinking and behaving – helping everyone to start joining their own dots. Nothing short of a weekend full of golden nuggets, wisdom and light bulb moments and potentially life changing for everyone attending.

  4. Anonymous

    Life changing …
    I was apprehensive about doing the course. Anger has dominated my world for too many years.
    Mike is brilliant. He helped the whole group to understand where our anger comes from which is the core of the problem.
    The 3 days we spent together were nothing short of an incredible journey and something I have never experienced before. Mike’s honesty was humbling and what I didn’t appreciate before I did the course was how crucial the support network is afterwards when you go back to your world and make the changes.
    I will never forget the words “you’ve got to slow everything, literally everything down”
    Life after the course is different and there is still so much work to be done. I feel I have gained 10 brothers and sisters who are all watching out for me and checking in.
    Without this course my world would have continued in a downward spiral of anger and isolation. I cannot thank Mike enough for bringing us all together and the information and knowledge he shared with us.

  5. Anonymous

    Mike, you are exceptionally perceptive and insightful. Thank you for these incredible words of wisdom. There is so much power, integrity and intelligence in what you say. I feel humbled and grateful to have taken the course with you and still now to have the opportunity to stay connected with you and the rest of the group. You have given me many valuable tools to help improve my personal world and experience the peace and serenity of truly feeling happy and content and present.
    Not every day is without conflict for me yet but everyday is so much better and hope-filled than the days before I trusted your experience and joined your weekend intensive. My husband has even confided in a mutual friend that the cost of your course was simply the best value for money he could ever have imagined….. translated that means he is feeling more positive about our relationship as I work at changing my communication style with him. We have not had one trip back to the museum of past hurts (?) and we are being kinder to each other than we have been in a long time. Much love and thanks to you Mike and the rest of guys. I hope each of you are experiencing days or at least moments of better understanding, acceptance and peace since our weekend together.

  6. Anonymous

    Well after years of feeling Angry, uptight and annoyed at everything and everyone I decided it was time to deal with these issues before it ruined the rest of my life.

    I contacted BAAM which was a hard decision to make as admitting I had issues was a hard call.

    Well the nerves of walking into a room filled with more angry people was amazing to not feel alone for once in my life.

    Mike Fisher made everyone feel at ease straight off, and led us all down a road that has since changed my life. The course gives you the tools you need to stay on track and deal with anger in a much more controlled way.

    Great course very informative and well structured. Who would of thought that in two and a half days my life would be changed forever.

  7. Anonymous

    Myself and my partner each attended an anger management workshop weekend and subsequently a number of weeks of couple counselling.

    After trying many counsellors, Mike was the first therapist whom we felt at ease and open with. As a result we were able to do great in depth work on our relationship that I can honestly say has changed my life. The anger management weekend, I found shifted a large amount of my preconceptions about myself and other people. I cannot recommend Mike highly enough. Like any therapeutic treatment most of the change is driven from oneself but I have never before met such a wise and open facilitator.

  8. Anonymous

    I’m not usually one to review things but wanted to share my experiences of BAAM. I found myself on the weekend course with my ‘arm half up my back’ believing I was on the wrong course and that I could justify and reason out my behaviours. I stated as much on day one – by day three I was crying with strangers about things I never knew I had hang ups about. I found Mike Fisher to be a bombastic, dynamic and forthright man who doesn’t suffer fools so don’t go if you’re looking for back up for your actions and behaviours, or if you have a victim mentality. You must be at least willing to delve into yourself and be honest. For me this was a fascinating exploration of my fragile ego, my insecurities and most of all the root causes of my anger. With two criminal convictions for anger related incidents and the people around me telling they always felt they were treading on egg shells it was time to change. The man, the course and the materials are great and have given me the tools to begin the process of understanding myself better. I still ‘lose my shit’ sometimes but much less frequently now and I’m able to ‘catch’ myself much sooner and take corrective action. I have since been on a refresher day which was cathartic and fulfilling. Reflection, meditation and increased self awareness have all played a big part in the process and I’m truly grateful to Mike Fisher at BAAM and indeed the wonderful people I met at the course who became part of my support network, along with my family. If you know in your heart there’s a problem with anger but are having difficulty facing it and understanding it and you genuinely seek to change yourself.. this is for you.

  9. Anonymous

    The three days were a revelation. I encountered distinctions that had never been revealed to me and these have profoundly changed my understanding of anger and how I can deal with my emotional nature rather than try to deny or control it. It has opened freedom and choice in a realm where I previously reacted with no option to behave otherwise.

  10. Anonymous

    Hey all , hope you are all healthy and happy . I can’t believe the difference in me since BAAM. Road rage has almost gone . I realised a lot of it was related to poor planning on my part and I’d run late , I’d then take my stress out on other road users who were just being normal .
    I now plan my time better and I actually drive slower , enjoy the journey and invariably arrive a bit early feeling unstressed .
    Thank you Mike and everyone for the rich lessons and sharing .
    On reflection , one of the best weekends I’ve ever had .
    The mini part of me is with the adult part of me all the time now , I can’t believe the difference it has made to nurture her .
    Lots of love to you all xxx

  11. Anonymous

    Thank you to both Mike and my colleagues on the programme for making this one of the best things that I have done in years, you guys will always have a very special place in my mind and heart.

  12. Anonymous

    Thank you for sharing your story, for writing such a comprehensive book on anger, and for creating and facilitating such an insightful, eye-opening and potentially life-changing experience in your 3 day course – so worth the investment. With love

  13. Anonymous

    You’ll be amazed with what you learn about yourself….

    I have always had a quick temper and lashed out when angry (mirroring parents behavior). Throughout my life I was not really concerned about this issue, because I didn’t think I had a problem and had little regard for the effect that this had on others. Now that I have 2 amazing children I began to become concerned about the effect I was having on them and my wife when I lost my temper – which was often and usually for non-trivial matters.

    I only attended the weekend course last week but this has already been a truly life changing experience for me and has had a really positive impact!

    I learnt about many much-needed invaluable topics such as managing stress, conflict resolution, anger and communication styles, ‘growing back up’ techniques etc. in a simple to understand approach with very useful role-play scenarios. The topic list may sound the same as every therapists but I assure you, the content and delivery are on a totally different spectrum of quality and insight.

    If I were to choose one out of the many key learning’s – for me it was the Clearing Process – for the first time ever I learnt a simple method to:

    1) Communicate my feelings in a calm non-combative manner

    2) Keep my emotions (energy in motion i.e. actions) in check

    3) Maintain an ‘open heart’

    4) Action the above even in the most challenging situations without it becoming a major drama

    Truly mind blowing behavior reset compared to my historic actions and behaviors and just from a 3-day workshop!

    I constantly work hard to practice and refine my knowledge learned from Mike and his recommended readings, sure I still get stressed and angry but the huge difference is I can now manage and control my stress / anger / emotions and behave and communicate my feelings in an appropriate and non dramatic manner. For the first time I can remember, I feel amazingly calm and peaceful and my family and work life is infinitely happier as a result.

    Mike, I thank you from the bottom of my heart for helping to change my life for the better. Your knowledge is so invaluable to me on a daily basis – I only wish I discovered you 20 years ago. Thanks again and I’m so glad that your door is always open

  14. Anonymous

    Check In.

    Feeling annoyed, I read a letter my wife had written to me after an argument. By the time I was half way through I was no longer annoyed, I was angry. Again. I’d read some things I didn’t like. The argument really wasn’t my fault, I hadn’t even said those things that had made me angry in the first place.

    I have two small children and an unhappy marriage, I drink too hard and roar too loud, and I’ve already had counselling. Pffft. I’m angry and temperamental. That’s just how I am. It’s the blast furnace I use to forge my life.

    I resign myself to joining a weekend Anger Management course because I have nothing to lose, and things at home are tense. It’ll patch over the rough bits at least. Or so I thought. Hoped.

    The obstacle I encountered in enrolling on BAAM’s course was Time. Not having the time. It would interfere with plans. Interfering with plans for things I wanted to do. It was expensive. Not impossible, but expensive all the same. I was already irritated, and it hadn’t even cost me a penny yet.



    What I specifically liked about the course is that Mike has a profound ability to deliver complex theories and concepts in a relaxed, gentle, and patient style that made them and him incredibly easy to understand. No need to learn any “counsellor” speak. Phew.

    The course is run at the weekend, so I found that the timing actually worked really well and I realised that I didn’t require any major changes in my daily life. I actually had a weekend to myself, and that’s a rare, priceless, and exquisite thing in our household.

    I learned and have applied some unbelievably effective and practical techniques. I have enriched my life. My family are starting to trust me again. I’m starting to trust me again. I now have an actual, practical, real-world toolkit. It is not vapour-ware and theories.

    The cost of the course is about 6 pence a day for the rest of my life. Without any doubt or reservation it’s absolutely the finest investment I’ve ever made. Period. I can’t even begin to calculate the profits. They are a word bigger than huge.

    I was given the opportunity to meet and join a family of supportive, empathetic, and honest people. It’s reassuring to know that someone who really understands anger has my back if I need it. If I need them.

    At 40 years of age I have learned how to manage my anger. It feels fantastic. It is not easy, but it has been transformational. The anger has not vanished, but it’s not running riot and creating chaos in my life either. I’ve been trained to take the Nike’s off my destructive anger and fit concrete boots instead.

    Why am I recommending this course and Mike Fisher? With the tools I was given, and learned to use, I can dismantle the blast furnace of my life. It was only ever forging chains.

    Anger was literally powering the misery of my life. A robot. A slave to it.

    Trust Mike. He is an individual with an extraordinary capacity for curious courage and passion.

    Trust Mike. He is going to share his life’s learnings with you. You just have to listen.

    Trust Mike. His anger management course, it’s like coming off the pills that you take to stay Angry.

    Trust Yourself.

    Check Out.

    Hi, if you’re still here I thank you and am honoured for your time and patience to read my story.

  15. Anonymous

    Prior to attending the 3 day weekend programme I considered myself a hard working, law abiding, conscientious, friendly person. However, over the last few years I had experienced situations of challenge and conflict that had become increasingly uncomfortable or tiring for me to deal with. I felt like I wanted to get my mojo back, deal with things better and rekindle a bit more fun in my life!

    I consulted a few friends and work colleagues and heard about THE BAAM. Working in the City and being a bit of a sceptical so and so I researched the course and programme content quite extensively prior to arriving on early Friday afternoon and was quite prepared for a dullish series of long presentations on how to do better with people.. I was totally unprepared for what I walked away with!

    Mike is clearly a thought leader in the fields of improving personal effectiveness and managing feelings. The course is interactive, broken up into bite sized digestible chunks each with a clear set of objectives. – They say that conflict is usually fulled by some sort of misunderstanding. – The effect was that each unit give me a powerful new personal tool to be able to more clearly peel back the onion of my relationships and get to the heart of identifying the root causes and show me new techniques to be able to manage my own feelings and responses patterns in a more comfortable and effective way. The most brilliant by-product of going on Mike’s course was gaining both the tools and the confidence to improve the quality of your impact on other people.. a clear win win. The techniques and approach works across personal, business and group social situations.

    I am a firm believer that every so often it’s good for all of us to learn something new.. the analogy is that if you a driving a car on a long journey you have bags in the boot and at some point the fuel tank gets a little low.. without being trite, this course pitstop will help you fillup your emotional and personal fuel tank and thus lightens the load; preparing you nicely for the next leg of your journey. Thank you to both Mike and my colleagues on the programme for making this one of the best things that I have done in years, you guys will always have a very special place in my mind and heart.

  16. Anonymous

    I booked on an intensive Anger Management weekend, with Mike Fisher, with the focus on professional development. I didn’t view myself as angry or in need of input personally. An hour and a half into the program and I was clearly in therapy myself. A reluctant participant, in as much as I would not have chosen to put myself in therapy, I embraced the program fully, knowing that I would only get out as much as I put in.

    Over 3 days, Mike led me, and several anger buddies, on a journey. He explained the links between feelings, emotions and behaviours. He unravelled some of the intricacies of relationships and increased my understanding of how my behaviour affects and is strongly affected by others. He supporting me in learning how to use a variety of tools to enable me to explain and share my feelings in a positive and productive way and to deal with events giving rise to anger, in a manner which enables all participants to gain a clear picture of what has happened and communicate feelings in a useful and effective way.

    My journey continues and I now need to put into action what I have learnt, both in my personal and professional lives. My feelings of anger will still come, but they will not control my destiny. I will do that. I am responsible for me and I can choose my behaviour. I also have the support of my anger buddies, who understand and know how to listen to and support me on my journey.

    Money well spent. Get on the first weekend you can!

  17. Anonymous

    Dear Mike, It has occurred to me to write to you a few times recently and I am now actually doing it! I am feeling to share with you the journey I have embarked on since I attended your 3 day anger course last October, 8 months ago. Having overcome severe anxiety, I found my anger re-surfacing and felt compelled to make a strong commitment to do something about it. I booked onto your 3 day course and read your book, ‘Beating anger.’ The 3 days provided me with a fantastic springboard to open my Pandora’s box of anger, and begin to sift through the shit and the gold and everything in between. I have worked hard, but not with harshness, and in the last month or so, there has been a paradigm shift in the way I see myself, the world and others. I have made a positive choice to say ‘no’ to work environments that are toxic for me; I am embracing creativity through writing, craft, design and painting; I am making gratitude a daily practice. I am enjoying my children more and more, and accepting them fully. I am practicing parenting with firm, clear boundaries, implemented with gentleness, consistency and an abundance of love, and I am learning the relationship between compassion and boundaries. I have fully accepted that ‘perfect’ is unobtainable and undesirable, and I am recognising the value of trusting in process. I am setting up a women’s group inspired by Brene Brown’s ‘The Gifts of Imperfection’ to share stories, while exploring ways of bringing more creativity, authenticity, compassion and gratitude into our lives, whilst talking openly about shame and vulnerability. I have found the strength these last few weeks to say a firm and respectful ‘no’ to my husband’s anger – his passive-aggressive behaviour towards me and the girls, and his rare but explosive aggression which has resulted in pain, fear and damaged relationships. It is so poignant that what I could not say ‘no’ to as a child: my father’s constant anger and rage, I am now being given an opportunity to say ‘no’ to now. I don’t know how it will pan out or whether we will stay together – I am hopeful as he picked up your book for the first time yesterday. I do know that I have a right to have my needs met and to ensure my children’s needs are met, and crucially, that I have the strength to make this happen. Thank you for sharing your story, for writing such a comprehensive book on anger, and for creating and facilitating such an insightful, eye-opening and potentially life-changing experience in your 3 day course – so worth the investment. With love

  18. Anonymous

    Dear Mike,

    I have been meaning to write to you for some time now as I wanted to personally say a big thank-you – I owe you a huge gratitude. I found the course to be probably the most emotionally challenging thing I have ever done, but the rewards since have been well worth it. I thought you ran the course brilliantly and it was inspiring to listen to you speak about your experiences and your wisdom about dealing with anger.

    It actually took about 2 hours after the course finished for me to notice a difference in my behaviour. As I got off the train in London Victoria after leaving East Grinstead, I headed for the tube and the station was packed with people and I was fighting through the crowds. As I got to the stairs where you enter the tube, there were two fairly old women waiting at the top of the stairs – their luggage was blocking people passing by and they were aimlessly looking down at a tube map. Everyone was squeezing past them, and I felt myself starting to get irritated and angry that these two women were so thoughtlessly blocking everyone and slowing me down! As I squeezed past them myself, I suddenly recognised my feelings of irritation and anger, and I stopped, turned back and asked them if they needed any help. The poor old dears – they were totally lost and confused and were worried about carrying their luggage down the stairs. So I carried both their bags down the stairs for them and showed them what tube they needed to take – they were so genuinely grateful – one of them told me I was an angel and tried to give me a pound coin! Reflecting on this exchange afterwards, I realised I had just taken a moment of anger (which I probably would of seethed about for a little while) and completely turned it around: not only did I help two old ladies out who were so grateful, I made myself feel really good about me for doing such a good deed and feeling their genuine gratitude!

    Anyway, that was the first difference I noticed. Since the course, I have managed to really let go of things that would of made me angry and just say to myself ‘it doesn’t matter’. Its made me reflect on how much stress was fuelling my anger, and the negative impact this was having – and has had – on my relationships with my family and ex-partners. I have since had some really good conversations with my family and used the clearing process to go through some things with them that had been bothering me for ages, and, it worked – It really did. I had a 10 day holiday with the whole family in Costa Rica over the Christmas period and it went totally fine – not one outburst of anger from me which is a first!

    I have been reading lots about mindfulness and meditation and trying to use this to deal with my stress levels and I feel so much better for it. I have also started Yoga and this feels wonderful and has done great things for the back pain I have been experiencing over the last year.

    I won’t be able to make the refresher day as its a bit of a long way to come from the Carribean! I am very seriously considering doing the course in Malaga though at the end of June and building on everything I have learnt.

    Its hard to express my gratitude to you in words, but all in all, I start 2015 in a really positive and healthy frame of mind, and I owe that to you. Thank you.

    All the best,

  19. Anonymous

    The weekend course with Mike Fisher was truly remarkable and totally inspirational. It was a journey of discovery for us all that not only uncovered patterns and feelings in a very warm, safe space but that shone light in a beautiful way on the essence of what it is to be human. Mike masterfully led, supported and inspired the group to identify and acknowledge their feelings and left us with the tools to carry the work achieved over the weekend into our lives. I did the course more for a learning opportunity for my workplace – I did not think I had any issues – brother did I learn a lot about myself.

  20. Anonymous

    This is a truly life changing course. While there can never be a quick fix for understanding or dealing with anger, the techniques taught and the insight into why, is a fundamental step in growing as a person. Mike Fisher’s knowledge of the subject and how to make a room of strangers share deep and intimate experiences that help shape the course of our understanding together is unique and profoundly moving. I can’t recommend this course enough and will be attending a refresher course.

  21. Anonymous

    I just wanted to thank you for all the help and support you given me last weekend. I’m feeling happy, confident and powerful.
    One of the biggest thing I learned is that we have a choice and we make the choices that end up getting me nowhere. I practised bit of self control yesterday and was able to calm down when I told myself not to take it personally. Its a very good start and I’m confident I can apply all the methods and techniques that I have learned as my partner is very understanding and supportive. The only problem I had was looking back into my childhood – I don’t remember too many incidents but I guess it will come in time.

    In future I hope to have my anger under control and be nice to people who care about me. I also hope I can see my daughter more and can’t wait for the day when I get to take her home and care for her. She means everything to me and I love her so much. I pray and hope that I will be able to build a relationship with her and always be there.

    It was an eye opener of an event and learning to open up more and tell my partner about my feelings. I will also start with the logs once I read through the book again with my partner. Good luck with everything you do and hope you go on to help even more people like me. Thanks for everything.

  22. Anonymous

    Today I feel peaceful, happy and sad.

    I never thought I would have the best night sleep last night after such an intensive anger management course but I did feel extremely sad as i missed driving all that way to see you.
    I had a great time and I learnt so much.

    I had the best experience of my life and gained the most valuable information. Now i feel confident that I have the tools to control my anger.

    I am grateful to you and the guys on the course helping me get through this course as I found the whole experience very emotional due to personal circumstances and I am so grateful.

    Mike, you are a great guy, a real cool dude. A great teacher who has given me me so much hope. It seems as if my voice has been heard for the first time since i was 10-11 years old.

    Have a great Christmas and New Year.

  23. Anonymous

    I had asked for a message to passed on to Mike Fisher saying thank you – I had originally had a conversation with Mike a year or so ago I had phoned up to find out about courses after seeing an advert in the local magazine – When I spoke to Mike it refreshing for him to be clearly annoyed that he had to speak to me and then after realising I was not a journalist or a reporter for him then to explain why he had shown such frustration in a very matter of fact way! I couldn’t afford the course or the franchise at that moment of time but I had become somewhat intrigued at the way there was no embarrassment in Mike voice when he apologised and explained his reasons for his initial approach to me it seemed do honest – I did a google search on him and vowed the moment I could afford a course I would do one. It so happened that after much time a random email appeared in my inbox regarding a parenting course and detailed that they were also now running them in Derby I decided I wanted to go and enrolled myself and my partner to attend – to cut a long story short a few days before we were due to attend the course my partner bailed out I flew into what I know to be rage – not anger – had to cancel but decide due to my outburst I would do the intensive anger management weekend the following weekend to save losing my money already spent. I didn’t particularly think I had a serious issue with my anger management – but I am beginning a master in Drama therapy so decided to give it a look more so for professional reasons than for personal reason. Anyway’s a week before the course the book arrived I read it in a day so engaging and amazing was the revelations – I also realised the immense issues I had – I was almost scared to attend the course – the course date came and I made my way to Derby and met Julian and Paula – I cannot believe how much I was affected by the material after the first day – I felt awful at the realisation that my actions were adversely affecting my children, by the evening of the second day I found myself in a situation where before friday would have resulted in me screaming at my sister and left me feeling awful but having said what I needed to say but not sure if had been heard or just telling my sister to shut up and then I would have went away feeling awful and what I had to say would be unheard. By using the feelings wheel I clearly, calmly explained how I was feeling and how I viewed the situation – in that one conversation she understood things I had been trying to explain and express for years she ended up crying (not nice, but at the same time it was as it was a cry of oh my gosh I get it i’m so sorry!!) and apologising.

    I just cannot beginning to express how amazed I am at the simplicity of the program but the effectiveness. I mentioned in the course during feedback that Mike Fisher is just real cool and was told by Paula and Julian that that would be something that he would like to hear – SO Mike you really are immensely cool, cool headed, cool natured, cool giving – YOU ARE COOL!

    This is not exactly a brief summary but I ask to be excused – i also mentioned to the lady I spoke to that I felt there were areas of the course that I felt could lend nicely to some dramatisation and felt that I would like to explore this during my learning and would be interested in knowing how I could gain permission to trial a couple of ideas I have and then forward the feed back on to some one at BAAM!?

    Just found the whole process really life changing corny I know but very very true! Definitely something I could see my self incorporating into my personal life and drama therapy in order to help others – thought about using masks, taking the unfreezing of past hurts literally as in having people actual step into to different roles and act out what they would’ve wanted to happen instead – so the use of freeze frames at crucial points and then hot-seating into the different roles, and lots more random things have popped into my head since the course ended.

    Sorry I have seriously rambled but what I really wanted to emphasise is that I am in awe of Julian and Paula and I know they have been trained my Mike and that they only know a portion of what he knows as they cannot attach the personal experiences that Mike has experienced which came across in the book. SO thank you much you cool dude!!

    from Monica – a once exceptionally mismanaged angry individual who now understands there are other ways to express my anger, hurt or shame that does not require me to go down the rage road! – I still however love and respect my anger it makes me human and reminds me that I live each day with passion and purpose as if I didn’t get angry, hurt, sad, scared, shamed, empowered, or happy about things – I would not want to change things and life would remain very much the same – BORING!!

  24. Anonymous

    Dear All,
    My apologies for not saying good bye at the end of such an intense and awesome weekend. I rushed out to catch a 5:07 train and realized I left without saying good bye to anyone. I just wanted to say that collectively, you all made a profound impact on me. I learned so much about myself and each one of you. It was incredibly helpful to hear everyone’s vulnerability which allowed me in turn to show my own vulnerability. I wish you all the best of luck in your travels and please feel free to contact me any time.

    With Best Wishes,

  25. Anonymous

    “Most valuable course to attend, parents went away with a tool kit of ways to help them to understand their own anger and how to deal with their own children’s anger too. We had full attendance on the day which showed how parents valued the learning and how to change their behaviour towards their children. The group bonded well and felt to share their issues with other parents in a safe environment, they also felt they were not alone with their parenting problems.
    They learnt how to describe their emotions and describe their feelings better and this would help them to use this with their children so they can gain emotional literacy and well-being.”

    “By the end of the 7hr course I saw the light bulb switch on in parents heads, about the changes they were going to make at home to enhance their relationships with their children, and improve their families well-being.”

  26. Anonymous

    I could write so much but I have limited myself…!
    “It’s Amazing…It’s incredible…” What is it Jim?
    “It’s life but not as YOU know it…”

    That is what Mike and his teachings have given me, I would like to thank my fellow participants on 22.03.09, I know (not assume) they feel the same way.That a group of strangers all apprehensive and fearful of what is going to happen can be so changed in such a short space of time, by showing them the way, is astounding and incredible. The results speak for themselves in such a short time and everyone recognises this as the
    start of the journey.People who know me know I have had a colourful life not always the colours I would have liked with dark shadows and red mists….now everything is in silver and gold.To change an Irish saying this is MY story…Mike has THE storyAnd what is YOUR story……Remember what is past is not always and what is present can always change not always.

    If you don’t want to change your life don’t go on this course!

  27. Anonymous

    It has been 4 months since I attended the BA2 Anger Management course. My feelings immediately after the course were of intense joy, relief and liberation, which came from being able to understanding my anger, the triggers of my anger, and how to manage my behaviours more effectively.
    Four months on, and the intensity of those feelings has mellowed into a more realistic view of how to apply, and where necessary adapt, the techniques and experiences from the course into my everyday life.
    I have been good at applying some things, and not so good at applying others. But that is OK, as the work is on-going, part of my re-vitalised journey through life.
    Everything I have applied so far though has had an amazing and positive effect on my life, and on those around me.
    There are still situations which result in me feeling anger. But that is OK, because I have come to realise that feeling anger is a natural part of me, and probably a natural part of being human. Before the course however, the menu of choices I had in dealing with that anger were limited to repressing it, or behaving angrily towards others. Since the course, the menu of choices I have has increased to include a wide range of more healthy and satisfying options. And repressing my anger, or getting angry at people are off that menu.
    Thank you, again, to everyone at BAAM for helping me achieve this!

  28. Anonymous

    I am a registered psychotherapist who has trained with Mike Fisher. I am medically diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder because of my anger (mixed with depression). For years, I was consumed with alternating periods of rage and depression. Through extensive psychotherapy self-analysis, I have come to learn that these cycles are natural highs and lows for me. They still occur, but markedly less so.

    Mike Fisher’s intensive training programme has enabled me to accept my anger as a natural, biological response to the circumstances presented to me. But further, and more significantly, I have learned how to express my anger in a healthy rather than a destructive way, and I carry this work forward with my clients. There is, in my opinion, too much stigma attached to anger. Anger is a feeling that is equally as valuable as other feelings such as happiness and sadness. The problem for our society is one of inappropriate expressions of anger, often experienced or viewed as explosive anger.
    Much worse, in my opinion, is “anger turned inward”, whereby someone dare not express their anger. So they “implode” and damage themselves rather than risk damaging anyone else. We learn the 5 basic anger styles (intimidator, interrogator, winder-upper, victim, distancer) as children and we carry them forward into our adult lives. I can be (and have been) all of these styles depending on how I perceive the “power balance” in that moment. The one style that we generally tend to associate with anger is that of the intimidator. It is the style that gets all the bad press in the form of violent, physical, aggressive anger. I have been that style. I feel shame about it, but I can openly own it. But anger does not equal aggression. Someone can be aggressive without feeling in any way angry, and we need to identify this more clearly. Anger is the single motivator that empowers people to respond to the hurt, sadness, shame and fear they may feel in any situation. I consider myself to be normal rather than abnormal. And Mike Fisher’s programme has helped me to discover this about myself.

  29. Anonymous

    Just a quick note to pass on my gratitude to you and your administrative colleagues, and of course to Mike and Helena again, for the superb course that I attended this weekend. Enormously helpful / enjoyable, and very much looking forward to putting some of the useful tools I picked up into practice. Thanks again, very much appreciated!

  30. Anonymous

    “I would like to take the opportunity to thank everyone who participated in making the weekend, the most significant journey of self discovery that i have every been on and i understand that in no small part you are to be thanked also. Mike Fisher is truly a remarkable man and through his stewardship this weekend i am encouraged to take the course further. Once again my warmest thanks.”

  31. Anonymous

    I know I said this on Sunday but I really wanted to let you know that I left the course feeling as though a million light switches have been tripped in my head. The amazing thing for me is that I had acknowledged the problem for many years and whilst I have carried the tools I now know that I needed the instruction on how to use them. You provided a moment of realisation that I have never encountered before. I have spent years as an aggressive and explosive character and am now aware that this stems from the adversarial relationship I have with myself, not those around me upon whom I have heaped much misery and negativity with my outrageous outbursts. There I have said it. Years of denial and the answer has arrived over the course of two days – I have a great deal of toxic shame to deal with.

    Since Sunday I have felt far less tense and far less twitchy (the amazing thing is, I have spent most of my life with a whole range of nervous tics and these subsided very early into the course and have so far remained that way). I feel as though a peace has descended upon me now that I have made the first step on this significant and life changing journey.
    Thank you.

  32. Anonymous

    I know that thank you’s were said on Sunday, and tears were shed, but now after time for reflection I would like to make sure you all know how great it was to be present.
    Please convey my thanks to Mike and Linda for making the whole weekend so worthwhile and such a safe place to be able to find out so much about oneself.

    I feel peaceful, powerful and even an element of joy, which I have not felt for long long time. I keep finding myself grinning its weird!!!
    Thank you form the bottom of my heart, you are wonderful people.

  33. Anonymous

    ” I have been meaning to check in with you for weeks. A big thank you for the weekend – it was an extraordinary time, very powerful, very revealing and for me a watershed in learning how to manage my anger. Thankfully I could see early on how hard this journey is going to be and how much consistency is needed to get there. I am keeping a journal, but not writing it enough, I am checking in when I remember, but slipping when life gets frantic. These tools are so useful, but boy do you need to keep at it and is it easy to slip. I am in touch with some of the support group but will contact everyone eventually. People just love the idea of a quick fix and you know despite being really hard this journey is one that has moments of great reward. LIke when I did the detour method with my husband and put to rest something I had reacted to with fear and anger for years with out knowing why. Now I will not get so upset by water fights ever again and my kids can enjoy them with out having a scared /angry mummy hovering around. Keep up the great work. With sincerest thanks for sharing your knowledge and insight.

  34. Anonymous

    “I just wanted to drop you a note on progress to date. I have had a few “flare-ups” since attending the course, but they have not been anywhere near as bad as in the past and I am finding the AM Toolkit works well in most cases. I have also addressed some of the issues that were causing me stress, namely I have stopped seeing the girl who was messing me around, I have just landed myself a much better job and will be moving to the outskirts of London and away from city commuting, which has to be better for my health and sanity! Thank you for all your help and guidance. I can (as well as others) see a big positive change in my personality.”

  35. Anonymous

    Thanks for the weekend. It came at just the right time. I wasn’t able to clear face to face with Boss, but did manage to do so by e-mail. Subsequent passage of time has revealed that his view of the situation was incorrect. Before I would have got sad and hurt, but having cleared two things happened. The first was that I found I could understand his vulnerability much more easily and be more compassionate. The second thing as that each of the managers who were involved in overloading me spent the last week avoiding responsibility. As they didn’t talk to each other (one of the main stressors for me) they ended up contradicting each others view of events and the facts as presented by those independant of the situation. This has been absolutely hilarious to observe. All of this helped me to come to a greater equilibrium and trust in my own perceptions as being good enough.

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